If you and your spouse are getting divorced, you’ve likely talked to your child about it. You may have talked to other family members or close friends. It’s good to have a support system.
But how far does that net have to reach? For instance, should you tell your child’s teacher at school so that they know you’re getting divorced? Or would they just be confused as to why you were telling them, thinking you were taking things a step too far?
It can be beneficial for the teacher to know
You can decide how you want to handle this, as there’s no obligation either way. But there are some reasons why it can be helpful for a teacher to know that the child’s parents are getting divorced.
For instance, perhaps you used to be very vigilant about making sure your child did all their homework. Now that you are trying to handle the divorce, you’re very busy and it’s an emotionally stressful situation. If your child misses some assignments or doesn’t seem like they’re getting the same attention at home, at least the teacher knows that the divorce may be the cause and not that the child’s grades are slipping for some other reason.
With young children, teachers are also often very involved with behavioral issues. If the child begins acting out because of the stress of the divorce, it can also be beneficial for the teacher to know that’s why it’s happening.
Moving forward with your divorce
Getting divorced with children can be complicated, so make sure you know exactly what legal steps to take to move forward in a way that keeps your family in balance through these difficult times.